Valentines Day is just around the corner.  But there seems to be a bunch of couples out there who are just not “clicking”.  By that I mean, they seem to be less in love, and more in conflict.  So here are a string of pearls of wisdom I keep hearing myself say: Do you wanna be right or do ya wanna be happy?  Is this the last argument you want to have?  Why did you fall in love in the first place?  When was the last time you actually shut up and listened?

These questions are usually followed by a few assignments and amazingly, couples fall back to love (notice I did not say IN love)  in a very short period of time.

First assignment: Give each other 15 minutes EVERY DAY, with no distractions.  (Turn off the TV, radio, put the kids in another room, or to bed, pets out of the room, phones off.  I mean your complete attention on each other.) Topics are things like you talked about when you were dating…what would you do if you won the lotto?  Where would you go if you could vacation ANYWHERE? Why?  What is your favorite color…(I’m always surprised when spouses don’t know this.) What is your favorite food? Dream car? Dream place to live? etc..   Now go do it, and report back your results!  I think we’ll both be pleasantly surprised.